Some questions you can ask yourself when trying to figure your coping mechanisms out are:
Do you like to talk things through or keep them to yourself?
Do you like to sit, think, and reflect or keep yourself distracted?
Does being around others when your upset help or hinder you?
Do you enjoy being outside in nature, or cuddled up comfy at home?
Does self care work for you or does serving others fulfil you more?

Although this is a short list or endless questions that we can ask ourselves, it’s a good start. Keep in mind that there are no wrong answers to these questions, too; it all depends on you and who you are.
Once you figure this out, choosing activities and outlets that fit within your realm of coping will more than likely work best for you!
If you like talking it out, reaching out to a trusted family member, friend, mentor, or colleague to discuss what your going through will help you process your difficult emotions.
If you like to deal with things on your own, taking the time to distract yourself with the things you love doing will aid you in overcoming your struggles. Practice your Kido. Train or study.
If deep and critical thinking helps you figure out the best route to the best outcome, taking the much-needed time to unwind will be better than anything else. Meditate. Find your Zen.
If being around others makes you feel more comfortable, spending time with loved ones or working extra can help. Find a friend to spar with and work out your emotions.
If taking care of yourself makes you feel better, spending a day to pamper yourself may make you feel like a new person. Visit the hot springs or take a nature hike.
Like serving others? Volunteer somewhere that you feel makes a difference or do something nice for someone who means a lot to you.

The possibilities are endless.